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[Emotional Pain] Depression after abortion

Discussion in 'Guest Board' started by Unregistered, Feb 5, 2015.

  1. Unregistered

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    I've fallen into a deep deep depression post abortion and idk who to turn to. I was 6 weeks along so I wasn't that far into it so I didn't think it'd bother me this much. I'm a coward. I could have kept my baby. I'm so embarrassed of myself, the choice that I made, and most of all I want my baby back. I just cry all the time now. I don't drink or smoke so I have nothing to numb the pain. I am now also begining to develop suicidal thoughts. I feel like I don't deserve to be here. I keep having these random vivid dreams. They feel so realistic. My mom is no help at all. She hides all her problems by drinking and shrugging it off. I have no real support. I know I need help but idk where to go or who to turn too.
     
  2. Twin Flame

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    (((hugs))) What you are describing is so common. It's very normal. Please consider joining Passboards. There are many forums and lots of others who understand what you are going through and best of all, it's judgment free. I look forward to meeting you. (((hugs)))
     
  3. Miss Chip

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    I was over 7 weeks when I had my abortion and didn't at all think it would affect me the way it did either, but it's surprising the emotions it brings up. You aren't alone and I urge you to make yourself an account here where there are hundreds of women who are going through, or have been through what you are now. You could always try seeing your dr, or even trying out some counselling. I found a couple of lovely counsellors when I was at my lowest. Sending you hugs. You can get through this.
     
  4. Buckette

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    I can only echo what the others have..........what you are feeling is very, very common and very familiar to most of us at Passboards. I strongly recommend that register for and account and join us on the main boards. Talking to others who know exactly what you are feeling, who've been there or are there, really does help. You are far, far from alone.
     
  5. Unregistered

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    I feel completely the same, I was 9 weeks when I had my abortion 3 weeks ago and the pain just won't go away. If anything it feels as if it's all getting worse and worse. I cry everytime I think of it, I didn't really want to go through with it but my partner pressured me into it. He told me he would be there to support me after and help me through it but after he completely changed. He never visited me after or asked me if I was ok he just finished with me and told me he wasn't ready for a relationship. I feel so ashamed of myself for what I've done and I just can't get over it...I feel so alone like I have nobody to turn to.. I knew after I would feel hurt but never this bad..I don't know how much more I can handle :(
     
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    Please consider joining the boards. There are many who feel as you do and it is a judgment-free site. You can speak freely. :hug:
     
  7. Unregistered

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    I am depressed from my abortion. I got pregnant for an older man and he is married. We talked about it and we did what was best as an emergency at the time to save our relationships. He supported me the best he could. My childs father got hurt on his job real bad and he was going through a crisis in his own life. I did my abortion when I was 8 weeks pregnant. I thought I was going to be ok and strong. No emotional distress, until weeks passed....I felt alone, I felt as if my childs father didnt do 100% towards me as far as checking on me. He just kept saying I am sorry and I really got tired of hearing that. It was a precious life that was there. Yes I do regret my decision but I realize I cannot change the past. I just have to get through the consequences alone. He had a major back surgery recently and the week before this, I advised him we needed time apart to heal. He understood but I do miss him and we will always have a special bond because of our child.
    To all the women that went through this, the best remedy is to speak with someone to release the internal heartache and regardless of that outcome always have that relationship with your child's father, there is and always will be a bond.
     
  8. Buckette

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    You aren't alone, hun, there are many of us who understand and who are there to listen to and support you........but you need to register an account and come onto the main boards in order to talk to them. This Guest board is only seen by Admins, moderators and volunteers.