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Discussion in 'Guest Board' started by Unregistered, Apr 14, 2015.

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    I had an abortion (which is still so hard for me to say) about 2 years ago, which I know is a long time ago. When it was done I was with my partner for only about 5 months at the time and coming from a strict background, I felt it was my only option. Straight after, I felt okay surprisingly, I went back to work, I socialized, I cried a lot but only when I discussed it with my close friends.

    Now, I have major feelings of loss and regret, I am at an age where people are having babies all around me and I feel awful, especially when I can't enjoy my best friends pregnancy with her. I think about what could have been and have illogical feelings like, just because I had it, I won't be able to fall pregnant again.

    Are there people out there that have felt like this so long after, what can I do to be okay about all of this?
     
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    Yes, there are many people who feel as you do - you aren't alone. Please do sign up to join the boards and create an account, you will find that you are among many women, in a neutral supportive environment, along with lots of ways on how you can work through how you feel. Your thoughts, your feelings are all normal, all common - you aren't alone.

    Please join us :)
     
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    Yes for sure. I had my abortion at 19 and only started with regret some 6 years later. Please sign up and join our group here at PASS boards
     
  4. Unregistered

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    I had mine in December 2012. I feel the same way. I think I did make the right choice but all I did after was cry. I am married to the same man now and we plan on having kids in the near future. I still cry when I feel alone and sad. I think about how much joy my life could have had but than I think of my strict family and maybe we wouldn't have the life we have now. or maybe I wouldn't be a good mom because we would be struggling financially. I think I have learnt that it is normal to be upset and cry years after. We just have to believe we did the right thing. I don't think we will magically heal without the support of one another and a loss is a loss...it will always be there just surround yourself with loved ones. It is hard...I know. I don't talk to my husband about it. I think it would upset him seeing how upset I am. I just cry silently. I brought it up jokingly once and he dismissed it. I am sure he hurts too, but he rather not talk I am guessing. It is difficult and you are not alone.
     
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