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Sadness after Abortion

Discussion in 'Guest Board' started by Unregistered, Jul 8, 2014.

  1. Unregistered

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    I am 20 years old and found out I was pregnant a few weeks ago. When I told my boyfriend that I was pregnant he said "okay, we just have to make an appointment for an abortion" and was totally unfazed. He was so sure that abortion was the right choice, but I was more hesitant. I found myself thinking about the baby a lot, the sex, what it would look like, life with a baby. It was amazing to know it was growing inside of me. Being so young, still in school, living with my parents and being very scared I decided to have an abortion. I kept telling my boyfriend I didnt want to do it, but felt like I had to. I had my abortion last week at 7 weeks pregnant. Ever since I have been suffering from unbearable sadness. I feel guilty. I want the feeling of knowing the baby is growing inside of me back, I want to see my baby. Unfortunately I have been dealing with all of this alone. Since the abortion, my boyfriend has been away visiting friends and family. Being physically alone right now is difficult, but he doesn't even talk to me about it. He has not asked how I'm feeling once and if I tell him I'm upset and ask him to call he refuses. I broke down today and told a friend. It was nice to have someone to talk to but she told me I would have been a great mother and I would have had all the support in the world. My heart breaks thinking I could have raised this baby, but it's too late. I feel like this sadness will never go away. I will never have a chance to see, hold or raise that child.
     
  2. Twin Flame

    Twin Flame ...that place between sleep and awake... Alumni Volunteer Wave

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    I'm so sorry for your loss and sadness. What you are describing is quite common...every thing you've written. Please consider joining Passboards. There are so many women on there who understand exactly how you are feeling. :hug:
     
  3. Rowanoak

    Rowanoak 'Be kind to people, for everyone you meet is fight Alumni Volunteer

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    Hi, I'm glad you posted here and am very sorry for your loss. Like Twin Flame, I hope you'll join, because the support here is really remarkable. This is a safe place to sort through your feelings. I've been able to say things here I couldn't say anywhere else.
     
  4. anonymous 1

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    Besides our ages I could have written the same post...I'm sorry for you! I'm hoping this site will help me sort my feelings out...

     
  5. Buckette

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    I'm so sorry for all you've been through and are going through, hun. I strongly recommend that you register and join us on the main boards. The Guest Board is only seen by moderators and volunteers........on the main boards you will find many, many women who understand, we've all been there or are there. It's a good, safe, neutral place to talk.