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[I need support . . .] Why can`t I overcome these feelings?

Discussion in 'Guest Board' started by Unregistered, Apr 17, 2016.

  1. Unregistered

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    A couple days ago, the one year anniversary of my abortion passed. In the weeks following the abortion I was broken. But I actively worked through things and asked for signs that I could be at peace. I made new friends, saw new places and learned a lot. But after a couple months, the repressed impact started to hit me. Nearly every single month since last June, I have convinced myself that I am pregnant despite having an IUD. I relive the symptoms and end up feeling nearly positive that my baby is in there. But then my period will come, I'll feel a relieved sadness and then midway through the month, the pattern will continue. Does anyone else experience this? I read that women experiencing infertility do.

    I also experience a fear of infertility or that my boyfriend will die and I won`t be able to have another child with him. I want to be able to work through this but it eats at my thoughts. I almost feel like if I do get pregnant again, I won`t even be happy then because it will trigger so much sadness and won`t have the novelty or love that I felt with the baby who I lost. Please help... I wish I didn`t feel so alone in this.
     
  2. Trigeo

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    What you're describing is a mix of emotions and experiences that many of our members have also had post abortion. You're not alone! I strongly urge you to register for an account and join us on the main boards. This guest board is only seen by volunteers but the main site is full of members who have been or are where you are. Everyone is compassionate and supportive and the wealth of caring and experience is so supportive to healing. I hope you will register and we will help you through this. Again, you are NOT alone.
     
  3. Buckette

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    Ditto to everything Trigeo has said, hun. Everything you mention feeling is very familiar to most of us on the main boards, and I hope that you register for an account and join us.

    Also, an abortion in and of itself does not cause infertility providing there were no complications.