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[I need support . . .] Will time heal me?

Discussion in 'Guest Board' started by Lishey, May 9, 2018.

  1. Lishey

    Lishey Guest

    I am 22 years old. It has been almost 3 months since my abortion. My fiance and I have had many discussions about having a baby, and starting a family together...when the timing was right. We weren't really all that careful during sex, we didn't use protection and I was not on birth control. I remember when I first found out I was pregnant and we both for a good few moments were genuinely excited, until we quickly snapped back into reality and realized it was not a good time for us to bring a child into the world. Which looking back at it now, saying that just sounds silly. Nonetheless, we decided together to get an abortion. I was 5 weeks and 1 day along the day I got the abortion. I thought the sooner I took care of it the easier it would be on me. Unfortunately, I could not have been more wrong about that. I did the at home medical abortion. For privacy reasons and so I could just be with my fiance. Days after the abortion I sort of felt okay....mentally. It seems to be that with every day that passes it gets harder and harder to accept and cope. I find myself crying all the time whenever my fiance and I have a small argument. I have trouble falling asleep and waking up. I could sleep for 10 hours and still feel exhausted. I have the most bizzare dreams and wake up in cold sweats. I just wish that I could find a way to help myself grieve and cope with the decision we made, because pretending like it never happened hasn't really worked out in my favor. I need some advice...
     
  2. Buckette

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    I'm so sorry for all you've been through and are going through, Lishey. This board is only seen by Admins and volunteers so I strongly recommend that you register for an account and join the wonderful members on the main boards. You aren't alone and you aren't the only one to feel as you do.
     
  3. Trigeo

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    I hope you’ll register, hun. There’s a whole community and thousands of discussions that can help you. Our membership is compassionate and will support you; you are definitely not alone. :j